Oh my sweet Ayden! I just love you so much! You’re almost 8 and been a part of our lives since you were 4 years old! You’ve grown so much and you’re such a smart boy!
We adopted Ayden 10/4/2017 and it was the 3rd best day of our lives! After been in 8 different foster care homes since age 2, he would finally have a forever home and family!
On yesterday, I got an email from an unknown address. When I opened the email, it read,
“Hello, I hope this is still a good email. This is Ayden’s mother and I wanted to know how he was doing and if I could see him again.”
Needless to say, I was shocked. Because “I” was Ayden’s mother. Was “she” really reaching out to me 4 years later wanting to see him after not being an active part of his life since age 2! I was angry and then I became saddened.
I had to understand that although Ayden was ours, he was very much hers. I tried to place myself in her shoes and wondered how difficult it would be for me to have to make a decision for my children to be raised by another mother. It was unimaginable for me.
A part of me wanted not to respond, but she gave me a wonderful gift. Because of her, we have a son, because of her…we have experienced parenthood again. And we are greatful. We have always maintained that we would keep Ayden connected to his bio family…but I didn’t think it would be this hard…but he’s mine!! I have to understand that he was hers first…an unbreakable biological bond that can never be broken. I can never change that and would never try.
We will work it out on Ayden’s time and boundaries for her of course, but we very much want to nourish a relationship between them.